Episode 103 with Asifa Sheikh
Creating With Grief Instead of Waiting to Feel Better
Show Notes & Full Transcript
What if creativity doesn’t require you to be healed, fearless, or finished?
In this intimate and soul-rich conversation, Sophia is joined by Asifa Sheikh (she/her), a writer, poet, and Firefly Creative Writing facilitator, to explore what it means to create from the whole self, including grief, rage, body, memory, and hope.
In this episode, they explore:
How creativity can be a place of belonging and agency, especially when the world feels unwelcoming
Why grief isn’t a block to creativity, but fertilizer for deep, meaningful work
The relationship between grief, rage, and creative fuel and how both can be alchemized into art
What it means to create while holding multiple marginalized identities
The myth that creativity should feel effortless and why the fight is part of the process
This episode is an invitation to stop waiting until you’re “ready,” healed, confident, or unafraid — and to begin creating with the parts of you that feel messy, tender, or unfinished.
To learn more about how you can tap into your creativity and take an idea from napkin scribble to something alive in the world, check out the Fat Joy Creation Lab. We start on March 3, 2026!
Asifa loves to write and is a writing coach at Firefly Creative Writing. Alongside her role at Firefly, Asifa also serves youth in the community. She is a loving mom to her two cats Consuela and Cicero and enjoys playing the handpan in her spare time.
Learn more about Asifa: https://fireflycreativewriting.com/asifa-sheikh
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