Setting boundaries with people can be deeply scary, so Kami Orange (she/her/hers) is here to guide us through what to say and how to say it. As a recovering(?) people-pleaser, Sophia gets Kami’s advice on specific scenarios where fat & plus-size people often feel like they need to set a boundary but struggle to do so. And then Kami gives Sophia a huge a-ha moment with a few brilliant coaching questions.

Kami Orange is a fat queer autistic white cis woman. Raised in a small cult subset of Mormonism in Utah by religious extremists and leaving home at age 17, she has an eclectic background. Having been everything from a psychic medium to a business consultant, Kami learned through doing how to set kind but direct boundaries as she moved 27x across the United States. After years of getting boundary scripting requests from friends...then friends-of-friends...then friends-of-friends-of-friends, she became a Boundary Coach in February 2020. Almost two years later, Kami has 250k followers on TikTok @kami_orange, clients in 8 countries, and a book on the way!

Eating disorder treatment comes in many forms, and Alejandra Porta (she/her/hers) is sharing her 2-month inpatient treatment experience where she learned, much to her own surprise, how fatphobic she was towards herself. This deeply candid conversation explores the impact of emotionally abusive relationships, how being surrounded by diet culture complicated her recovery, how she learned to set boundaries and embrace self compassion and confidence.

Alejandra is a Nicaraguan designer, creator of “A Little Time for Your Journal” and “A Hug for You” affirmation deck, and co-creator of Shine Bootcamp, a speaker and confidence accelerator for women who believe design thinking can be applied to any discipline. Alejandra specializes in brand and communication design for startups and is currently living her dream by being her own boss as a freelancer. A champion for body positivity and health at any size, Alejandra was recently named of of eighty women and non-binary people to follow in tech by betakit, as well as being nominated for the “Women of Influence” award sponsored by RBC. In her spare time, she writes about mental health, radical self-acceptance and self compassion.

Dr. Rachel Millner (she/her/hers) spends most of her day talking to folks who are struggling with eating disorders and who want to heal their relationship with food and body. She’s taking us through how to handle it when our kids are deeply influenced by diet culture and anti-fat bias using impactful conversations and opting out.

Rachel Millner, Psy.D. is a psychologist and activist in private practice in PA. Rachel has been working with those with eating disorders, disordered eating, and those wanting to heal their relationship with food and body since 2005. Rachel is a fat positive provider and works from a Health at Every Size(r) and Body Trust(r) framework. In addition to her clinical work, Rachel frequently gives talks on topics such as eating disorders in higher weight people and providing fat positive therapy. Rachel has been interviewed for numerous publications about eating disorders and has been interviewed on many podcasts about her work. Rachel also supervises therapists wanting to learn how to provide HAES therapy. Rachel identifies as a fat activist and works to counter anti-fat bias in the culture and eating disorder communities.

Continually unpacking internalized fatphobia is part of Trevia Woods’ (she/her/hers) intergenerational trauma practice. Her years spent figuring out how to live with PCOS, experiences living in China and Saudi Arabia, and then becoming a mom were key stepping stones on her body acceptance journey. And Trevia’s expertise in supporting people to connect to their lineage helps Sophia soften some hard feelings towards her late grandmother.

Vivienne McMaster (she/her) helps people find their way into a more compassionate, connected, and accepting relationship with the person looking back at them in selfies. She speaks to how photos aren’t just a product but can be a way into conversation with a body healing process. Sophia explores how her own safety boundaries in photoshoots have changed and contemplates her next ‘danger zone.’

Vivienne McMaster is a Body Acceptance Photographer, Trauma Informed Coach and Certified Body Trust Provider. She works with folks through online classes, coaching and photo sessions to shift how they feel about the person looking back at them in photos. The camera and self-portraiture helped her heal her own negative body image. She's now on a mission to share these tools and help folks choose compassion over critique and return to body trust, one photo at a time.

Meg Elison (she/they), author extraordinaire and lover of fat fashion, is here to talk about her latest book Number One Fan (that Sophia read in 24 hours), what it’s like to navigate the publishing industry as a fat person, and how fashion forms her rebellion against societal body standards. She also takes us back to her experience with her mom’s bariatric surgery and how that radically realigned how she felt about her fat body as a young person.